Balancing “Mom Life” and “You Time”: Practical Strategies for Finding Moments Just for You
Balancing motherhood with personal fulfillment can feel like a never-ending challenge, especially when no two days are ever quite the same. Between diapers, playtime, meals, and everything else on the list, it can seem like there’s hardly a moment left to breathe, let alone take time for yourself. But finding those moments is not just important—it’s essential. In this post, I want to share some practical strategies that have helped me carve out my own “you time,” even while navigating the unpredictability of mom life.
The Importance of “You Time”
As moms, we often put ourselves last, ensuring everyone else’s needs are met before our own. However, I’ve learned that when I find time for myself, I become a more patient, present, and joyful mom. When I feel good, I’m able to give more to my family without feeling drained. This is why I prioritize carving out moments for myself, even if it’s just for a short while.
Finding the Right Times in the Day
For me, “you time” usually falls into three main slots: early mornings, during my kids’ nap times, and after they go to bed.
- Mornings: Waking up before the kids gives me time to set intentions for the day, enjoy a few sips of coffee (or a dirty Dr Pepper!), and start my day feeling grounded.
- Nap Time: During nap time, I dive into activities that make me feel like me. It might be self-care, such as applying a favorite face mask, or working on growing my business, which brings a sense of purpose outside of motherhood.
- After Bedtime: When the day winds down and the kids are asleep, I take those late hours to unwind or continue working on projects that fulfill me.
The key is finding those pockets of time that work best for you and making the most of them.
Staying Flexible in Mom Life
Motherhood requires flexibility—especially when you’re solo parenting much of the time like I do. Some days, everything goes according to plan, while other days can throw you every curveball imaginable. On those more challenging days, it’s important to be kind to yourself. If “you time” looks different than you hoped, even 15 minutes spent doing something you love can make a difference.
What “You Time” Looks Like
My “you time” usually involves self-care or working on my business. For some, it could mean curling up with a favorite book, taking a walk, meditating, or experimenting with new hair or beauty products. Whatever fills your cup, prioritize it. The important thing is that you’re doing something just for you.
The Impact on Mom Life
Finding moments for yourself can significantly change how you experience motherhood. For me, it’s helped me become a more patient and present mom. I no longer feel like I’m constantly running on empty because I take time to recharge. When I prioritize myself, even just a little, I am able to show up as the best version of myself for my kids.
Tips for Carving Out “You Time”
- Start Small: You don’t need hours. Start with just 10-15 minutes if that’s all you have. It still matters.
- Be Consistent: Establish routines. Whether it’s morning, nap time, or bedtime, make it a habit. Consistency is key.
- Don’t Feel Guilty: Remember, wanting time for yourself doesn’t make you a bad mom—it makes you human. Taking care of yourself means you can better care for your family.
- Utilize the “Cracks” of the Day: With a husband who’s often away and no family nearby, I’ve learned to work in the cracks of my day. When the kids are entertained or napping, that’s when I grab my moments.
- Ask for Help: If you have someone available—like a partner, friend, or neighbor—don’t be afraid to ask for help so you can have a bit of time to recharge.
Redefining Motherhood by Rediscovering Yourself
Mom life can be all-consuming, but it doesn’t have to mean losing yourself. Finding the balance between “mom life” and “you time” is all about giving yourself the space to grow, explore, and rediscover what makes you happy. It’s about knowing that it’s okay to want more and making that space for yourself without sacrificing your love for your kids.
To all the moms out there feeling overwhelmed or stretched too thin—you are not alone. Take that moment for yourself, even if it’s brief, and see how it fills your soul. You deserve it.